Tuesday, July 8, 2008
For people with AS, the degree of stress or the degree to which they will "withdraw" is directly proportional to the number of people present in a given setting.
I want to scream and shout that this is further validation of what we experience with Cam. Having him in a large classroom setting or even a large Karate class BOTH proved to be unsuccessful... he simply could not get past the various forms of input/external stimulation going on around him.
Which leads us to the quandary of what to do about school again. Schools around here are CROWDED. We opted to enroll J in our local feeder school which as I said in an earlier post is HUGE. It had almost 1000 kids last year and with the various school closings and rezoning around here it's expected to be more this year. And taking into account what our experiences have been with Cam AND what Atwood said... it simply would not work for Cam. And with limited choices we have around here even our local private schools are busting at the seams. And truthfully, the only Cam had addressed in public school was speech therapy twice a week. At least during homeschool (where he excels academically) we CAN work on critical thinking skills, social skills and this year Brain Gym exercises. But we HAVE to find an active homeschool group local which is proving VERY difficult.
All of this is so frustrating for me personally in the sense that we know our only option right now IS to homeschool. Not that I don't love homeschooling him but the truth be told, we're completely broke. We need me to work but I don't know how this would be feasible unless I give up sleeping. I'll have C and B home this year because we cannot afford preschool for B. Which is OK, it makes working with C a little bit of challenge but it works out. We've done it before. So whenever I get the $ to take boards here in FL and IF (hopefully) I pass I'm hoping I can work weekends (maybe 7p-7a) but since J works on Saturdays...there goes any hopes of sleeping prior to going in to work.
Blech. I did YEARS of night shift and ultimately it just made me sick. I'm a morning person so it was not conducive to my system LOL. Unfortunately we need the money and I need to homeschool C and still have B home. So it should be interesting.
I'm TIRED of people telling me it will work out. Because you know what, it hasn't. We're barely making ends meet. We need basics... shoes, pajamas, clothes, our plumbing fixed, dental and doctor appointments. Hell, gas in my car.
((sigh))
Sorry. I'm just feeling like there's no way out right now. It's been tough since March and it has just continued to go down hill.
How this post turned from my Tony Atwood story to this... I have no idea. I apologize for my stream of consciousness.
Friday, July 4, 2008
HAPPY 4th of JULY
In a hUgE move yesterday... we enrolled J (5yo) in our local public school Kindergarten. It was a move made with a lot of hesitancy and kinda last minute. Most people here do not seemed to be pleased with our HUGE local feeder school (K-5). It's big and remember, I'm from Philadelphia so that's saying a lot. But private school is not financially feasible this year. So I keep telling myself "It's K, it's K." C will be homeschool ed again. I did give J the option to homeschool but she WANTS to go to school. Her only requirement for school is more. little. girls. LOL. She wants friends. So we're enrolled (fingers crossed as I say this).
J was VERY excited to see a picture of her teacher on what will be her classroom door and even more excited to see her supply list. I had to explain all day that we have more than 5 weeks before school starts to purchase what she needs. :) She's been homeschooled very casually since May. Right now she' s on Explode the Code 3 and we've JUST started Horizons Math K (so she's doing simple addition and basic time). I'm not pushing her, she's 5. We do what she wants, when she wants. But reading, reading, reading, reading and lots of library trips are pretty much the rule of thumb around here, something we have to do.
And ... our first cheerleading meeting is THIS week already! Yay!
B's preschool plans our off the plate because of finances so we'll do some letter sounds and some preschool-type stuff probably with PreK Sing,Spell, Write and Read. Little man at 2 y 9 mo is not reading like his brother at this age but is learning letter sounds. He's a smart little guy... knows his color and shapes. But the biggest advantage we have with him is he loves, loves, loves to be read to. It must be his favorite thing (beside his Thomas trains, shows and VeggieTales shows of course). He'll be 3 in October and we desperately need to put him in some kind of sport...something. He's a monkey!
C... his homeschool curriculum is pretty much the same for this coming year. I just planned our week yesterday. We're going to attempt a 5 day a week schedule but since Daddy is off on Mondays I am volunteering at J's class as room mom on Monday so ... we'll have tinkering to do with C's homeschool schedule.
Math -- 2 pages of Math Workbooks daily (alternating Horizons 2 and Singapore 2a) with Singapore Intensive on Thursdays and Challenging Word Problems on Fridays.
Reading - the GOAL is to read at least one-half of an hour daily and do Reading Detective on Fridays.
Language Arts -- (notice I'm breaking this up separately into reading and writing and THEN LA) We'll continue to use Daily Paragraph editing on M,W, F. Continue using First Language Lessons (FLL) daily which I like because it includes memory work and some copy work. I'm thinking of adding in Harp and Laurel Wreath for additional copywork and poetry/memory work. We'll move on to Spelling Workout C this year and do one chapter a week (2 pages one day, 2 another and the 3rd day a spelling test). C LOVES spelling because he's a natural speller.
History - Continue with SOTW 3 days a week. This year I'm adding in Daily Geography.
Science - We'll finish Evan Moor's Read and Understand Science then either move on to the next grade OR (more than likely) move on to Critical thinking Through Science . I would really like to use Neoe Science this year but it's out of my budget.
Handwriting - We'll probably go back to D'Nealian or Getty Dubay Italic.
NEW THIS YEAR we're adding in:
- Daily Brain Gym exercises (I saw that a ASD school here in FL uses them and if it works for their classes of ASD kids, we'll try it ...)
- Writing using SWB's Writing with Ease if I can get my hands on it. I was on the pre-order list with PHPress. But we'll start whenever we get it. Writing is going to be C's hardest subject. He really lacks abstract thinking so putting his thoughts down on paper is tough, tough, tough....so MAYBE we'll start this in January... ????????
- Social thinking(site is down so I can't link it). This is a program I've wanted forever but a fellow poster on an ASD parents board I belong to raved about the program so .. I'm sold. If there are only 2 things we accomplish this year they are: improve C's social skills/pragmatics AND teach him beginning writing.
- Latin-- probably start with Minimus or PL. Not sure when... maybe January. I need to get other goals met first.
Now if only a windfall of money would come my way....
Saturday, June 28, 2008
Sunday, June 22, 2008
Gorgeous Blog
http://brocantehome.typepad.com/brocante_home/
I've printed out many of her Vintage Homemaking sheets to put into my own Home Management Binder (I posted about a few days ago).
Gorgeous!!!
Saturday, June 21, 2008
I'm up for this... anyone else????
My new favorite place to shop....
Tuesday, June 17, 2008
My home management binder...
Well I finally did one about a month and a half ago. Mine has brought SUCH coolness and organization to my life that I made one for a friend who is moving into a new home! I have tabbed folders to divide my binder into many sections.
I've divided my binder (which sits in my kitchen) like this:
- "Today's to do list"
- "Planner" for calendars, class calendars, library calendars and our birthday calendar for our family/friends.
- "Cleaning" for daily cleaning schedule, monthly and yearly cleaning checklists and I BUNCH of homemade cleaner recipes
- "Menu/Shopping"for menu planning section with a 7 day printout and also a Grocery store "Master List" as well as a folder for coupons and recipes I want to try. (I am loving Smitten Kitchen these days)
- I have a section for Financials (bills and such)
- I have a section for Medical
- I have a section for Home Maintenance with a pocket for receipts
- ditto a section for Auto Maintenance
- Then I have a section for Emergency (incl in this is a printout for each of us with our SS number and blood type)
- For my friend I also included a section for contacts
From MY binder...this is my checklist that's up on the frig for daily chores (I'm like a dog I'm so routined but if I'm not... I'm out of sorts...kwim???)
Daily Cleaning Schedule
Morning:
Start coffee
Shower and dress
Empty dishwasher
Drink coffee, check email
Make breakfast for family
Make beds
Take out dinner meat
Start laundry
Dress kids, kids teeth
Swish toilets, wipe sinks in bath
Clean 1 drawer or 1 shelf
HOMESCHOOL
Switch Laundry
Afternoon:
Make lunch, do dishes
Pick up toys
Fold laundry and put it away
Empty kitty litter
Water/Weed
Work 20 minutes on ZONE
Make dinner
Evening:
Do dinner dishes
Get morning coffee ready
Sweep kitchen and tidy kitchen
All kids brush teeth, baths, change clothes
Lay out clothes for a.m.
Wash face, brush teeth
Lock all doors
ZONES:
v Dining Room, Boys room
v Kitchen, ceiling fans
v Kids’ bath, Jules’ room
v Our bedroom, our bathroom
v Living Room, Family Room, hall bath
v Sunroom/Playroom, change air filter
Monday
o Mop kitchen and baths
o Clean mirrors and doors
o Vacuum rooms
o Empty all trash
o Wipe appliances down
o Change sheets
o Clean stove and microwave
o 20 minutes on zone
Tuesday
o Dust all surfaces incl desk!
o Finish mirrors, windows, doors
o 20 minutes on zone
Wednesday
o Paperwork and bills
o Sweep, spot mop
o Clean frig
o 20 minutes on zone
Thursday
o Clean all sinks, tubs, toilets
o Menu plan, make grocery list, card list
o 20 minutes on zone
Friday
o Clean laundry room
o Groceries and errands
o 20 minutes on project
Saturday
o Clean car
o Wash garbage cans
o Wash goopey windows
o Mow lawn, trim hedges
Sunday
o Kids’ Nails and Mommy conditions!
Monday, June 9, 2008
So look what I learned how to do
Soooo cool.
It's the little things, ya know?
Thursday, June 5, 2008
'Puter issues
Quick homeschool update....
C- doing well! Starting on multiplication in Math and loving it. REALLY into History at the moment but it's a fun period that we're doing... ancient Crete. We watched a movie on Ancient Aegeans last week then the 7 Wonders of the Ancient World this week. We're slowing getting into the early Greeks. Very cool. We're all enjoying it.
J- what an awesome reader she is. We're on Explode the Code 3 and starting Horizons Math K this week! Her writing has MUCH improved since she's been homeschooling.
Weather: It's been hot, hot, hot and humid. 92 and 72 lows most days. Blech. I just sit outside and bake. Even my fair skin is tanned (for me). We're enjoying our $50 pool let me tell you. We have definitely gotten our use out of this pool already and it's only June 5th.
Nature: Unfortunately with lack of rain the lake water has REALLY receded and with that that bass and other big fish have sought deeper water so we're left feeding the sunnies and the occasional turtle. It's sad. We've had ONE good rain recently. My garden is not fairing well. I overwatered the garden one day and killed the zucchini and the broccoli is not doing well now either. On a positive note our Gladiolas have started to bloom... gorgeous! Our petunias are starting to dry out and the Gerbera daisies are sad looking. One bud a piece. :sigh::
I keep looking at the weather in Upper Black Eddy, PA (Bucks County, PA) as the new place I want to move (ok, so that changes weekly). Personally it helps me to know that there's a bright spot out there somewhere. I love FL winters, detest the summers. I want to be back in PA where I actually have friends and family. I love Bucks County so it's a small dream...
We have our first meeting for our new private school/homeschool tomorrow night and I'm really psyched up for that!!! Gosh I hope it's a + experience! We're sooo not in a county that is a good homeschooling county (no co-ops, little support, really no true homeschool groups... I can't even get any of the groups to call me back).
We're still doing "homeschool lite"now that summer has officially begun here concentrating more on reading and swimming but history is fun! J is working hard on her writing skills, beginners math and reading of course! C just "got down" his 0,1,2 times tables.
I'm doing sooooooooooo much summer reading: All of the Sophie Kinsella Shopaholic books (they're hilarious), some Jodi Picoult, the Square foot gardeners books AND all of the Dave Ramsey money books. We decided to take the NEXT YEAR to rebuilt our savings which means remaining on our tight, frugal budget until that is accomplished!
Happy Monday!
(btw, like my new blog design?)
Tuesday, May 27, 2008
Sunday, May 25, 2008
FUN site in a terrible, horrible, no good, very bad economy
10 free laundry detergent recipe. Loads of homemade cleaner recipes. Great tips.
After getting bamboozled by tons of cleaners under the sinks I gave up and starting to make my own. Nothing cleans our windows, sliders, french doors, mirrors, etc as a 50/50 combo of ammonia and vinegar.
Yay for a good site!
Saturday, May 24, 2008
ASD and Hyperlexia
For us it all started when C was 17 mos (July, 2002). Well actually it started before that. C was a hard, hard baby. He was our first baby and was birthed naturally with the assistance of our midwife at the Medical Center at Princeton four weeks early (when my water broke at work). I had one incident of spotting and was anemic (very anemic post-partum) but that was it as far as complications went. 5 days after he was born he went under bili lights for jaundice, high bili levels. WE nursed and nursed and nursed. At 4 weeks he started vomiting... everywhere. And he had colic. I suspected GERD, my pedi thought it was stomach virus. At 4 weeks he aspirated while nursing. Two days later, during a Barium swallow, he clearly had GERD/Reflux. Pretty bad in fact. The pedi didn't encourage me to keep nursing and encouraged thickening a hypoallergenic baby formula. By 10 weeks we had stopped nursing completely and started f/t on thickened Alimentum and Zantac. But still he never really slept well. He went from having to sleep in a his infant car seat strapped in (which we kept between us in bed those first few nights post-aspiration) to sleeping in a bouncer to sleeping with the head of his crib mattress elevated. C was never a sleeper. Period.
By 14 months he was still sleeping poorly. Developmentally he was a slow crawler (10 mos but we atttributed that to the reflux, well the vomiting as soon as he was prone actually) but everything else seemed OK. His first words were at about 10 months, walked at 13 months. He wasn't talking a ton but did have about 15 words at 15 months. Our pediatric gastroenterologist ordered an Upper GI to rule out casein (milk protein allergy) at 15 mos. We had to give him whole milk for 2 weeks prior to the study (a total change from the enriched soy and rice milks we gave him). By day 10 he had diarrhea so profusely I thought he had Rotavirus. I pleaded with the GI doc to just call it a + protein allergy and let me stop the whole milk but he insisted on sticking it out for the sake of the test. The day of the scope was pretty intense because he was a bit on the dry side and was a difficult I.V. stick (finally done on 5th attempt by anesthesia by the way ,to my horror, as an I.V. nurses). The scope was + for casein allergy and reflux. (Gee. Really?)
At 17 mos things were much better so we saw our pedi for our routine check up/shots/etc. En route to the visit my dh called me on the cell and pleaded with me NOT to have any shots during that visit, that C had been through enough. I poo poo'd him with an "Oh Johhhnnnn." See, John was upset that C would be receiving the "controversial" MMR during this visit.
During the visit the APN wanted to "catch him up" on his shots so he rec'd his missed 15 mo and future 18 mo shots. And it was on this day that we saw a major change in C. He lost what speech he had (speech cessation), became more "disconnected" if a 17 mo can do so and actually developed full blown measles 5 days after his shots (his shots were Thursday. Monday he woke covered in Measles). Not a few measles spots. His measles covered him head-to-toe anteriorly and posteriorly. The pediatrician said it was fine, it wasn't real measles or he'd be REALLY sick. I asked about reporting it as an adverse reaction, he was said it was not. He was sick for about two week with Measles. Two weeks. But it wasn't real measles, said the pediatrician. It was when he started to perk up a bit that we noticed he had lost what little speech he had. Now he had NO words.
By 19 months I requested intervention and he started in Early Intervention in NJ for speech therapy. At 23 months he spoke his first word...again. It was "hi." That was his only word for a while. At 2 years + we saw a developmental pediatrician who felt he had some delays but would not diagnosis him at that age, preferring to wait for diagnosis until he was at least 3 years old. At about 27-28 months we found out he could read words. Shortly after his sister was born, when he was 26 months, I sat in his room playing on the floor and drawing on the chalkboard. Being in full-on speech therapy mode I was working on speech with him. I would draw a picture on the chalkboard and write beside what the object was. To my shock, he was reading most of the words I wrote.
Initially we thought these were just words he recognized from the repetition of me writing these words OR he had actually retained some of the information we fed to him early in his infancy. See I have to confess, we were typical new, neurotic parents. We were full aware given my husband's IQ/giftedness that C may lean toward the gifted side. And I was bored. I worked up until the minute my water broke so being a SAHM was shocking. I filled some time of our wonderful, amazing baby days doing the Doman Method with C and if I played a video for him it was one of the Your Baby Can Read videos or Baby Bumblebee videos. Infant education was huge for me.
I was also the type of parent that only fed my child organics and natural foods (starting him on avocado as his first food per Ruth Yaron's recommendations in Super Baby Food). Yet medically we followed the traditional route (why wouldn't we? I was an RN). My biggest disappointment to this day is that I listened and stopped breastfeeding him.
We moved to Florida when C was 2 years 9 months. At 37 months he was dx'd by the psychologist with Early Intervention here with Pdd-nos/hyperlexic trait. Pdd-nos means he was at the high functioning end of the Autistic Spectrum. Hyperlexia is the "precocious ability to read." However at 3 yo he no longer qualified for ANY services because he "scored too high."
And that's when we began to realize everyone was AS confused about Autism and its'
spectrum as we were.
I'll be back with more ........
Poetry Day
We memorized the first paragraph of Longfellow's The Arrow and the Song from this book...
J has really improved her reading. We read two really, really "feel good" books yesterday we ALL enjoyed by Douglas Wood.
So many books I want to read with the kids right now. Between recommendations at http://www.chinaberry.com/ and http://www.montessoriservices.com/ I could been reading 3 books a day to them!!!
In History, C and I read about the Hanging Gardens of Babylon so I have reservced a library video on the Seven Wonders of the Ancient World. The longer we homeschool the more I realize how little I know, how much I need to learn, and how poor my education actually was (sorry Mom and Dad, I know you paid a lot of money in Catholic school tuition). But I'm learning now!
John is finally home and completely exhausted so the kids are thrilled. Yesterday I had major trauma with a house alarm that went nuts and a cable malfunction which of course took him less than 10 minutes to fix once he got home. See, this is why I married him (that and his bug-squashing abilities of course).
Have a great weekend, looks like we're in for a lot of rain ! Yay! We desperately need it here after weeks of FL wildfires.
Wednesday, May 21, 2008
Tea and Nature Craft Day
Tuesday, May 20, 2008
Country of the Week/Person of the Week
This is an idea that has worked for us. We printed out our Table Manners and put it in one of these flyer/stand-up things and it's always right there (for reminding).
Here's an idea we tried yesterday for C. He fidgets A LOT during "tasks" like doing 2 pages of Math (yawn) so I had him sit on B's THomas bouncer and it worked. I saw the idea in an OT catalog as an idea to keep children on task and it worked for us!
Last pics... these are of the new improved valance for J's faux window in her "tea party room" and just a shot of the starfish/sanddollar garland on the Family Room mirror. Cute!Monday, May 19, 2008
Blake and the fish
THINGS I'm loving these days
1. SURFCAT... Does your library have this? It's a way for you to reserve library books at home online. For some reason even though I can "see" a book I want online and it says it's "ON SHELF" it never is. So this way I can just reserve what I want and the library calls me when they have it!
2. From Martha's site- The "Organizing Tip of the Day." SUCH simple ideas!!! Love it.
3. And I'm DEFINITELY doing this for the white open shelving I'm planning for the kitchen wall with white plates on it. A DIY project.. dot painted china. Can't wait to hit the cheapie stores for some cheap white plates to start this project. I don't think I'll use Martha's templates (sorry M but I'm not liking your Monogram "S". I'm thinking more along the lines of some scripted "S"'s in my color Blue,Robin's nest egg blue, and maybe some shells). This will be a fun project.
My weekend project:
I have to post a pic of J's new valance. I took the valance that was in her old room striped it green and white and painted "Juliette's Tea Room" across the front of the valance.
Her old room was a take off of the whole Bombay kid's GIGI theme. I couldn't replicate the room here because the store went out of business and she wanted a change. So we brainstormed and came up with the idea of a "Shabby chic tea party room." I think my 5yo dd has a future in decorating. SHE comes up with the best ideas (like wanting a Pinkalicious Birthday Party). She's sooo creative.
HAPPY MONDAY! (really gotta homeschool these kiddos now)
Sunday, May 18, 2008
Nature Pics
Since I grew up in the city and suffered from "Nature deficit disorder" (well I know what squirrels and pigeons look like) I really want to teach our kids about nature, as I learn.
The turtles are two of the many that come up to our dock to be fed. It's hilarious. And then there's "Mr Heron" as B calls it. Mr Herron has become a good friend since C fed him one of the sunfish he caught one afternoon. He comes pretty close to us now.
We also see lots of hawks. The boys have fished Sunfish, Catfish, turtles *unfortunately*, and impressive bass from the lake. There's a pickerel just teasing J out there. We have tons of tons of Bass pics. Like TONS of pics. C wants to build his own Bass scrapbook! :)
We have a Veggie Garden going and just started a tiny "fairy garden" of just flower seeds right beside it.
And we're trying to take more and more pics of the waterlife in the area. The waterlife here has been so impressive WITH THE EXCEPTION of our cat's mishap. Poor Oreo fell prey to a Red Tailed Hawk which apparently picked him up by its' claws then dropped him. He was stunned for a day or 2 and it took about a week for his back legs to heal from where he was picked up or pecked at. He's back to his ole self now though.
I'm a bad, bad blogger
But since I'm here now... homeschooing is going well. We have routine of C getting up first (he's the earlybird), waking his Dad and out to the dock they go. After about 45 min of fishing he comes and then our morning starts: breakfast, chores, get dressed, start homeschool. At the moment Cam is using: Horizons Maths 2nd grade, Story of the World for History, Spelling Workout B for Spelling, piano practice (we were using Themes to Remember as well until a little 2 yo stepped on the Cd), a mishmash of Language Arts 2nd grade workbooks with First Language Lessons as our Language Arts Spine, lots of reading, and for science we changed to Evan Moor's Read and Understand Science which he likes. He also has SOTW copywork to do weekly, daily journal writing using a different daily writing prompt (this is quite a challenge for Cam since he lacks abstract thinking) and we use Daily Paragraph Editing 2nd grade.
Jules is using Explode the Code 3 for phonics, Singapaore Math 1a, and right now she's doing daily copywork (a sentence daily) on birds.
We also started to plan our Nature table now that we're officially homeschooling 2 kids. We started collecting items for it last night.
I've tried to schedule things on different days..some have stuck, some haven't. MWF is History. T and Th is Science. Daily Math, Language Arts and Writing. We JUST started (now that Jules is home) doing: Person of the Week and Country of the Week. Monday- Person of the week
Tuesday- Country of the week
Wednesday - Craft (tea and craft for J and Mommy)
Thursday- baking day
Friday- Poetry Friday.
Our method is a secularized version of Classical Homeschooling trivium and Charlotte Mason. But we don't have a method. We use what works for now.
In the fall the goal is to get the kids into a homeschool private school which will be 2 days classroom time/1 day classroom GameDay (using critical thinking skills) and 2 days homeschool. That's the goal for now. We're not happy with our local feeder school and the nearest private school we like is a bit of a drive and pricey. We're trying to just navigate through the next year then move out of Daytona.
I think the only thing we'll miss is this house we JUST moved into... the kids love the lake out back, the dock, and the sunroom is VERY large which makes a great playroom and classroom.
Phew...well that was a mouthful.
Monday, February 4, 2008
A birthday and a ball
Saturday was the annual Sweethearts Ball here in Daytona which peanutgirl went to with Daddy. A good time was had by all!!!
Sunday we had a birthday! Our oldest turned 7!!!